Wednesday, November 20, 2013

life lessons

i loved this article about life lessons learned while traveling. i will have to make my own list of lessons learned, when i'm finished with this adventure. :)

my favorites are #2, #7, and #14.

the original post can be found here.


18 Life Lessons Learned From Traveling The World

SEP. 23, 2013 
I never thought I would still be nomadic. My original round-the-world trip was only supposed to last one year before I went back home, found a “real” job, settled down, and by now, be married, have a house, 2.5 children, and complain about my retirement fund to my friends.
Yet life took a decidedly different turn and here I am, seven years later, writing this from an overnight train to Copenhagen with the same desire to explore the world and no sign of stopping soon.
After so many years on the road, there are a few life lessons I’ve learned from travel that I never would have learned otherwise and I wanted to share with you today.

1. It’s not that hard.

Every day, people get up, go out the door to travel the world, and survive and thrive. Kids as young as 18 make their way around the world without any problems. All that worrying and fear I had before my trip was for naught – this traveling thing is a lot easier than people make it out to be. You’re not the first person to do it and there is a well-worn trail that makes it easy for first times to find their way. If an 18 year can do it, so can you.

2. You learn a lot of life skills.

People who travel are better adjusted and less socially anxious people and traveling around the world has taught me to how to be more social, be adept and more flexible, and, most importantly, understand non-verbal communication a lot better. It has made me more independent, more open, and, overall, just a better person. There’s no reason to be scared that you might not have “it” in you. You’d be surprised how often you’ll surprise yourself.

3. You are never alone.

It may seem scary just throwing yourself out there and talking to strangers, but we are all strangers in a strange land. At the end of the day, everyone is very friendly. It took me a while to get used to just saying “hello” to strangers, but now it seems like second nature. Everyone is just like you – they are alone in a strange place and are looking for others to be with. People travel to meet other people and that means you. Don’t be afraid to approach other travelers and locals. You’ll find that when you travel alone, you’ll never really be alone.

4. You meet some of your closest friends traveling.

Whether it was in a restaurant in Vietnam, on a boat in Thailand, or walking into a hostel in Spain, when I least expected (or wanted) to meet people was when I met the best and developed the longest lasting relationships. And even though you may not see them for years, you still end up at their wedding, Christmas dinner, or family celebration. Distance and time cannot break the bond you formed.

5. Relationships come and go on the road.

I’ve met lots of people on the road, including members of the opposite sex I’ve found attractive. But the nature of travel doesn’t always lend itself to long-term romantic relationships. It’s hard to make something last when everyone moves in different directions and holidays end. If you get too attached too often, you’ll have nothing but heartache as people come and go. But I’ve realized you need to simply enjoy your time together and live in the moment. Dwelling on the future will only keep you from making that leap.

6. But chase the ones you like.

Yet once in a while, you’ll find someone you really connect with. Meaningful romance on the road does happen. And when you have nowhere to be and no place to go other than where you want, sometimes there is no reason not to follow. Don’t force yourself to say another good-bye if you don’t have to. Pursue it even if the distance seems too vast and the circumstances not right, because you never know where it could lead or how long it might last because, once in a while you meet the one and when you do, you should do everything you can to stay with them.

7. It’s good to try new things.

I used to be a very rigid person, but traveling has helped me loosen up and expand my worldview. I’ve pushed myself to the limit, eaten new food, taken cooking classes, learned magic tricks, new languages, tried to conquer my fear of heights, and challenged my established views. Travel is all about breaking out of your comfort zone and enjoying all the world has to offer.

8. Be adventurous.

Doing the canyon swing was tough. So was jumping off the boat in the Galapagos. As was eating the maggots in Thailand and caterpillars in Africa. Then I got my butt kicked in Thai boxing. And, while I won’t do most of those ever again, I don’t regret trying new things. Scare yourself once in a while. It makes life less dull.

9. There is no such thing as a mistake.

No matter what happens on the road, it’s never a mistake. As was once said, “your choices are half chance, and so are everybody else’s.” When you go with the flow and let the road just unfold ahead of you, there’s no reason to have regrets or think you made a mistake. You make the best decisions you can and, in the end, the journey is the adventure.

10. Don’t be cheap.

When you travel on a budget and need to make your money last, it’s easy to be cheap. But why live like a pauper at home while you save so you can skip the food in Italy, the wine in France, or a sushi meal in Japan? While it is good to be frugal, it’s also important to splurge and not miss out on doing once-in-a-lifetime things. Who knows when you will get another chance to dive in Fiji?! Take every opportunity.

11. That being said, don’t be wasteful.

But remember you aren’t made of money, so don’t always feel like you need to party with your new friends every night or do every activity in a new place. Sometimes it’s OK just to sit around and relax or cook your own meal. Be frugal, but not cheap.

12. Drop the guidebook.

Don’t be so glued to a book. You can travel fine without it, especially with so many good alternatives on the Internet these days. You’ll buy it and hardly use it anyway. Just ask people for tips and information. That will be your best source of information, especially for those off-the-beaten track destinations and hole-in-the-wall restaurants that no one’s ever heard of but serve the best food you can imagine.

13. It’s never too late to change.

Even if you aren’t the traveler or person you want to be in your head, it’s never too late to change. Travel is all about change. The more you say “tomorrow,” the less likely it is that tomorrow will ever come. Traveling has shown me aspects of my personality I wish I didn’t have and also shown me I’m really lazy. I’ve always lived by the phrase “Carpe Diem” but sometimes I don’t really do it. It’s never too late though and realizing that has made being more pro-active a lot easier.

14. Relax.

Life is amazing. There’s no reason to worry. The universe unfolds as it should. Relax and just go with it. You can’t change the future – it hasn’t happened yet. Just make the best decisions you can today and enjoy the moment. Don’t get caught up trying to see all the “must sees.” There’s nothing wrong with spending a day playing games, reading a book, or lounging by the pool.

15. Learn more languages (seriously).

There’re some great benefits to not knowing the local language – like miming out “chicken” to let the lady know you want eggs for breakfast – but learning languages is very helpful when you travel, and works out great when you meet other travelers. There’s also nothing like surprising people by speaking their language. Moreover, knowing basic phrases will endear you to locals who will appreciate the fact you went the extra mile. You’ll find people will be much more helpful, even if you struggle to say hello.

16. Wear more sunscreen.

Seriously. Science has proven it helps, and with all that beach time you do when you travel, you could always use a little more. Being tan is great. Having skin cancer is not. SPF up.

17. People are good.

All over the world, I have encountered amazing people who have not only changed my life but have gone out of their way to help me. It’s taught me that the old saying is true – you can always depend on the kindness of strangers. My friend Greg taught me long ago not to be guarded against strangers. That experience when I first started traveling changed everything and when you travel with an open heart, unexpected goodness will happen. 99.9999% of the people in the world aren’t murders, rapists, or thieves. There’s no reason to assume someone is one. Sometimes people are just trying to be friendly.

18. There’s no such thing as must-see.

This is your trip. No one else’s. Everyone’s journey is their own. Do what you want, when you want, and for how long you want. Don’t let anyone tell you aren’t a real traveler for skipping the Louvre, avoiding some little town in Peru, or deciding to party in Thailand. This your journey. You owe no one an explanation.
I’ve learned more about the world and myself in the last seven years of travel than I had in the previous 25 years of my life. No matter what happens in the future, I know that travel has taught me life lessons I never would have learned had I stayed in my cubicle job.
Find a way to travel as often has you can to all the destinations you dream about.  They will change your life. TC mark

Sunday, November 17, 2013

teaching, outdoor markets, and santander

"Don't let your dreams, just be dreams." 

Sorry for the delayed update. I really need to be better about blogging, but life has just been so busy. so where to start. life in madrid has been really good. full of fun weekends, adventures, and crossing things off of my madrid bucketlist.


Hanging out at Elli's piso with Maury, Brittani, and Elli


Bucketlist adventure at the Vertical Gardens with Brittani and Maury

Two things that i love about madrid - first, is their love for books. There are always cheap used book stores that i get lost in and i'm there until closing when they kick me out, or half bars half bookstores which i love to hangout with friends in. And second, is this city's love for outdoor-open air markets. There are two regular outdoor markets that I go to the Rastro market which is every sunday morning from early morning until 2pm and Mercado de Motores, which is every second sunday of the month and its usually all day. This makes for awesome sunday fundays. Rastro has everything from dresses, to cheap purses, to kitchen ware, scarves, posters, socks, etc. and it's in the La Latina neighborhood under these huge oak trees. The market extends for several blocks and branches off in different directions too. There is a bar in this area that has English Breakfast Brunch - called the Rastro Bar, which we go to sometimes for after shopping fuel.

Mercado de Motores is in the train station museum which is located off of the Delicias metro stop, and it's in an old train station! The market on the inside is a little more expensive because its artisan stuff - anything from bags, to shoes, houseware, clothing, children's toys, etc. But the part on the outside is a flea market - which is neat, I've found some good books and random stuff out there too. Another thing about living here - that i know i talked about before but everyday i think it makes me so much happier and healthier, is that I love being able to walk in the fresh air and be outside as much as I am. christmas is coming and so are madrid's winter/christmas markets! I am so excited to be abroad in spain for the christmas season! They already started putting the lights up and they are constructing the huge Christmas tree in puerta del sol. I can't wait!

Let me tell you about my job and teaching - In a different life, I always thought I would be a kindergarten teacher if I wasn't an SLP. So the fact that I teach 3-5 year olds should be perfect, right? It's a lot harder than I thought it would be - controlling a group of 27-30 babies who don't speak English is not how I imagined it. As a teaching assistant, the teacher is always required to be in the room with me - some help you with their kids and others not so much. And the education system in Spain is very weird to me. Some of their discipline tactics would get you fired in the US. For example, their discipline system is shame based. Basically, if the whole class is not paying attention or listening - you pick out the worst kid who is talking and yell at them a foot from their face, and make them stand up the entire class period, or pull them by their ear. Yes and they do this for 5 year olds. They constantly "castigar" (punish) kids all the time, and make them sit or stand separately from the class. And when the 5 year olds cry about being "castigada" (punished) they threaten them with sending them to 3 year old classes or they pull out a necklace of baby pacifiers to put in their mouths if they don't stop crying. For 3 year olds, they put them in a really high chair so they can't get down and/or they make them cross their arms tightly so they can't touch anyone else. Or they threaten to hold them/rock them like a baby in their arms. It's shame based for maximum embarrassment so that the other kids are scared into behaving. It's quite strange really. Oh also interesting fact - I pray the Lord's prayer at least 4 times a day (teaching 5 yr olds the Lord's prayer in English).


One of the 5 yr old classrooms

Other than the behavior and discipline system, I like my job - i love the kids they are just so much fun. My favorite are 5 year olds and 3 year olds. 5 year olds fascinate me because some are so smart and can read and write already. And their system of teaching reading and writing is so different from English!! In the Spanish language, when you read a word or sentence, it looks exactly how it sounds. There are only 5 vowels in Spanish (and they are always the same) but there are 20 vowel sounds in English and there are different letter-grapheme combos to each of the English vowels). Thus, there are no sight words when teaching kids to read in Spanish!! Isn't that crazy?! The 5 year olds that I teach are from a pretty affluent neighborhood so a lot of them have a decent amount of English. In their education system, they teach children how to write in print at 4 years old and cursive at 5 years old. The 3 year olds are sponges and some of them just learn so fast. I love how fun they are! 4 year olds are not my favorite because their just not there yet with reading and writing, and they are old enough to be super mischievous and misbehave.

It's nice having a job - that's just a job for me. I don't have to take work home or worry about reports to write. But I do miss being an SLP.... I saw PTN's annual campaign video come out this week and missed some of my kids so much!!

What else is new? Hmmm.. about a month ago, Elli and I were eating breakfast and talking about our upcoming "puente" (long weekend - with a Friday holiday) and so we searched online for the cheapest tickets we could find in Spain and decided that we wanted to go to Santander. We both loved it. We spent the weekend shopping, being tourists, drinking tea, being by the ocean, and eating tapas in Northern Spain. Santander was really small but homey like Sevilla (a lot smaller than Sevilla though). It rained some, but not a ton, so it didn't ruin our weekend.


Elli and I taking a jumping picture in the street in Santander

In the coming weeks, my school has our patron saint day - our patron saint is San Jose de Calasanz and we have a huge party, celebration, and dinner for the teachers on that Thursday AND the best part is that we have Friday November 29 off of school! Then the next weekend, Elli and I are going to Sevilla to celebrate Christmas with our beloved host moms. I cannot wait to see Manoli. I am so excited!!

Then the 24th of December, I fly home and will be in Los Angeles for 2 weeks. I am super excited to get to spend Christmas with my family. and to fly home to some warmer weather. It has been 34 degrees in Madrid this whole weekend and this week it's going to get down to 32 - which means if it rains, snow will stick. The cold is not agreeing with my California soul, I am constantly freezing.

Other things to look forward to: My dad is coming in April and we are going to Barcelona, Lisbon, Paris, and then he's coming back to Madrid. Sharla and I are in the process of planning her trip for her to come in June!!